Men - LEAVE WHEN SHE GETS VIOLENT. Depending on what research you want to cite, typically women have a greater propensity for violence than men do in hetero intimate partner relationships. Read the research not the womens' groups and WA COURTS propaganda. Do not kid yourself about a woman who is controlling and/or hits you. Violence is violence even if it seems harmless at the time. If you are like me, I grew up with brothers and friends and basically a guys' guy. So, it's easy to laugh it off when you can fend off a flurry from your ex with your outstretched arms. The first time it happened to me, I was shocked and bewildered and left the state for a few days. See "Denver Story" in my next entry. Unfortunately, the violence and tantrums against me didn't start until AFTER we were married (a very short time). I should have walked (no ran) immediately and filed for divorce. What I know now is that once you are emotionally and/or violently abused and/or attacked, they will do it again and again. These type of women feel entitled to do it and feel justified in thier actions. In their mind, it is always your fault and the family courts will see it that way too despite the constitution and "no fault" divorce laws. But, I was naive and "committed" to what I thought was a life long partnership (for better or for worse). Although, I don't know how worse it could have gotten with her abuse and threats. But, the point is . . . run, don't walk if you experience any violence or crazy shit when you are dating. I don't care how hot and sexy she is. It will get turned around on you at some point and you will be screwed by the legal system that has no burden of proof and an extreme bias (motivated by federal funds) against you (the male). I actually presented EVIDENCE that SHE was violent and hit me several times (in her own hand writing). They said I probably provoked her and deserved it and gave her the pass. There are many great women out there who are not nuts. You can't afford to mess around with a loaded gun pointed in your face and that is what Domestic Violence is for women. So, in sum, during the dating process is when you leave if she gets violent or abusive. Hopefully, you will be lucky enough to spot it in time. Move on and do it NOW.
DO NOT CONTINUE TO DATE OR MARRY A VIOLENT OR EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE WOMAN. LEAVE AND NEVER LOOK BACK.
Wednesday, February 8th, 2006 Women all over the country are obtaining domestic violence restraining orders at record numbers. Why? Domestic violence restraining orders are no longer only for men that actually beat their wives. Domestic violence laws continue to become more and more liberal. In California, destroying property is now considered domestic violence. For instance, if a husband gets angry and rips up a photo- domestic violence!
Why do women want domestic violence restraining orders? Simple: a quick and easy way to get their husband out of the house, gain full custody of the kids without Dad even getting visitation, and huge support payments from a sympathetic judge.
When a wife asks an attorney how she can get her husband out of the house, the attorney’s next question is about domestic violence. Do you get the picture?
