Parent Alienation Syndrome (PAS) Recognition and Credibility

P.A.S. has long been vehemently criticized and opposed by family law profiteers and feminist groups (such as NOW). Despite their best efforts, PAS is now gaining more and more momentum and could soon to be included in the DSM-IV codes of the American Psychiatric Association. Many bills have been successful recently in California and other states helping to recognize and combat this problem. Family Law reform still has a LONG way to go. The proverbial pendulum has only just begun to swing back from the extreme side it now rests on.

This is a very good resource or link site on Parent Alienation as Child abuse on Facebook. It has long been argued that PAS is child abuse and it has been covered as an international issue for years as in this analysis on Parent Alienation. The fallout of denying it as a problem is not only harmful to the father and the kids but also to the women that are caught up in it. see Denial also harms women by Richard A. Gardner, M.D., Columbia University, New York, New York, USA

The point of this blog is not to condemn women who get caught up in it but rather to try to help them break from their damaging behavior and to seek some help (for every one's sake). Forcing your ex spouse into some ridiculous gauntlet of never ending feminist reconstruction classes designed to emasculate normal men is not going to make you feel better about yourself or help the situation. In fact, all the money you have costed yourself and your ex only takes away from the children's present and their future. Please understand that the children need contact with their father to grow up emotionally healthy regardless of the past failed marriage. In fact, all the more reason to move in a positive, healthy, loving direction. The kids suffer enough just from the destruction of their family. After your disappointment, anger and grief, you have to realize it's ok that the marriage didn't work out and you will be happier anyhow. This is what you wanted and you have to be grown up enough to acknowledge that rather than trying to make yourself feel better about it by playing the blame game. You have to come to accept it and move on with grace, forgiveness and yes even agape love for your ex spouse. It's not any one's fault and it doesn't matter anymore. This sometimes not so narrow path we are on is not so easy some times. Also, please understand that these people urging you into this position are making lots of money off of doing this and you are helping to perpetuate a very evil system of destruction of the family and of America. Why is there only one outcome in this family court that leads to their cronies getting new clients? Why is it they never interview the children or have a thorough psychological evaluation of all the parties involved before slamming a man into their programs? Why is it they stack the deck with only like minded CASAs and GALs etc who have the same Evergreen liberal education? Why is it the commissioners destroy evidence that doesn't support that outcome? I have several case numbers to back that up. I won't go into specifics on this post. But, suffice it to say that there are spiritual, socio-political and above all monetary forces at play keeping this system in place and encouraging this conflict. These are not Christ centered loving people running the show here. They are not professionally guiding people caught up in a difficult time to a harmonious and peaceful end. It is truly principalities of darkness who keep you embroiled in this quagmire and blinded from a real solution. Think about it. Did anyone ever encourage any kind of settlement, real negotiation or healthy solution? Winner take all, forcing homes into foreclosure, destroying your ex's credit (and yours in the process) and depriving children of a healthy, loving, involved parent is not healthy or even professional. That is not good for anyone, including you. Good for the lawyers and judges (I won't go into all of their incentives here). But, not for you in the long run. They are not your friend. The family court IS the PROBLEM.

Please, consider the children. But, also if you can't see beyond your hurt or pride, consider yourself. This is not good for women. Denial also harms women


Rocking Chair Test - When you look back to these times when you can only rock back and forth in your very old age, will you be glad you did it this way? Is this the legacy you want to leave your children? Will they be proud of the way you handled this? Do you want to face your judgment day with this on your plate the way it is now? God bless you. I hope all folks caught up in such dilemmas will really think hard about this for every one's sake, including their own.