What every bachelor and young man should know about marriage, American women and the courts BEFORE making a huge mistake.
Here are a few excerpts from the Preface section
Excerpt #1
If you’re like most men, you’re married, or you hope to marry some day. You think you deserve to live happily ever after, but if things don’t work out that way, you’ll get a civilized divorce and move on. You stay pals with your ex, and you’ll see your kids as often as you want.
You have no idea what you’re getting into.
Excerpt #2
In this book, I sketch case-situations that show how divorce law has undermined marriage for men.
Excerpt #3
But there is another, unique ingredient in this witches’ brew: the women’s movement. For two generations now, a culturally triumphant feminism has validated the movement of married women away from homemaking and into the workplace, all the while successfully characterizing traditional marriage as the creation of evil, patriarchal men intent on repressing women. Many women, even women who would not consider themselves feminists, have internalized these attitudes, while many men, even men who pay lip service to feminist ideals, have not. When a consciousness-raised female marries an unreconstructed male, she brings ancestral attitudes that automatically aggravate her ambivalence. When she turns to divorce law for an out, she is welcomed by an array of economic and social incentive that encourage her to proceed. This amplification of women’s propensity to divorce may well account for virtually the entire doubling of the divorce rate since the 1960’s. It seems also to account, at least in part, for the uncharacteristically bad things that otherwise good women do to decent men.
The odds are 50% that your marriage will end in divorce. (I have posted the California Divorce Statistics that Lee Racounteur put together on the Don’t Get Married Board which is around 70%.)
The odds are 70% that your divorce will be filed by your wife.
The odds are 80% that your wife will get custody of your children – plus child support, alimony and/or a hefty chunk of your property.
From the moment your wife files for divorce, the State, acting through the court, will assert authority over everything you own. The court can then give a major share to your wife by applying the law of “equitable distribution.” The law of equitable distribution is based on the “partnership theory of Marriage.” This partnership theory of marriage doesn’t quite cover everything you made during marriage: it doesn’t cover your children.
Even though you and your ex were partners in the creation of your children, and even though you each contributed “equitably” to their upbringing, these considerations will carry little weight in court. Yielding to precedent and preconception, that court will commonly decide that it is in the “best interest” of your children to be in the sole custody of their mother.
As sole custodian, your ex will acquire primary paternal authority to live with your children and to determine their general development, including their health care, education, and religious training. You may “visit” with them on scheduled weekends (usually by paying a hefty sum to the lesbian supervised visitation house).
After the court awards your ex the sole custody of your children, it will award you something very special also. It will award you the obligation to pay child support (also known as MOM SUPPORT or aka income redistribution).
and if that isn't enough reality to clear up a man's thinking or get him to use his thinking head (and yes, women, you have yourselves to blame), you can read more here . . . http://outcastsuperstar.blogspot.com/2010/04/what-divorce-law-is-doing-to-marriage_4500.html
